The traditional 15 year anniversary gift is crystal, and the modern alternative is a watch. The British list agrees on crystal. Fifteen years is the point where the anniversary gifts stop being playful: in 1922 Emily Post called crystal the earliest present "likely to be taken seriously." It is also the last year with a material of its own before the list starts counting in fives.
What is the 15 year anniversary gift?
| List | 15th anniversary gift |
|---|---|
| Traditional (US) | Crystal |
| Modern (US) | Watches |
| British | Crystal |
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Why is crystal the fifteenth anniversary gift?
The crystal wedding is one of the older entries. In Britain, Brewer's Dictionary of Phrase and Fable recorded in 1895 that "the 15th anniversary is called the Crystal wedding," in a list that also named the wooden, tin, china, silver, golden and diamond weddings. The names, it explained, come "from the nature of the gifts suitable for each respective anniversary."
Emily Post kept crystal among the eight anniversaries in Etiquette in 1922 and marked it as a turning point. The paper, wooden and tin presents of the first ten years, she wrote, "are seldom anything but jokes. Crystal is the earliest that is likely to be taken seriously by the gift-bearers."
The usual explanation today is that crystal is clear and bright, like the understanding between two people after fifteen years. That is a later reading. In the old lists, crystal is simply the first costly, breakable, beautiful thing on a scale that had so far run through paper, wood and tin.
Why is the modern gift a watch?
The list usually printed as the modern one grew out of work by American jewelers in the 1920s and 1930s, and a watch is a jeweler's gift. No early source explains the pairing with fifteen years; the obvious reading is the passage of time.
Watches turn up elsewhere too. The anniversary gem list of the Gemological Institute of America is nearly all stones, yet for the seventeenth year it gives wristwatches.
Gift ideas by budget
Prices vary too much to list, so these are grouped by level.
Budget-friendly
- A crystal ornament or sun catcher for a window.
- A single crystal bud vase with one stem in it.
- A pair of glass or crystal tumblers, engraved with a date.
- A new strap for a watch they already love, fitted for them.
Mid-range
- A set of crystal wine or champagne glasses.
- A crystal decanter, bowl or pair of candlesticks.
- A pendant or earrings set with cut crystal.
- A watch for everyday wear, engraved on the back.
- A glassblowing session for two.
Splurge
- A fine watch chosen to be worn for decades.
- A full suite of crystal stemware.
- A crystal chandelier or lamp for the house.
- Ruby jewelry, for the anniversary gem.
If you are buying crystal for food or drink, ask whether it is lead-free. Much modern crystal is; traditional lead crystal is better kept for serving than for storing drinks over a long time.
Ideas for her, for him and for the two of you
- For her: a watch with an engraved case back, crystal drop earrings, a perfume bottle in cut crystal, or a ruby ring in the anniversary gem.
- For him: a mechanical watch, a decanter and a pair of heavy glasses, a crystal desk clock, or having his father's or grandfather's old watch serviced and restored.
- For the two of you: a pair of watches set to the same second, champagne flutes for every anniversary from here on, or dinner somewhere that still sets the table with crystal.
If crystal is not their thing
- The modern list. A watch, or a clock for the house.
- Ruby. The Gemological Institute of America lists ruby as the fifteenth-anniversary gem, with the caution that no single authoritative list exists. Ruby is the July birthstone as well; our guide to ruby explains color, treatments and care.
- Glass. Art glass, stained glass or a hand-blown piece keeps the theme in a less formal way.
- Time itself. A trip or a few days off together fits the modern theme without a single object.
The lists are customs, not rules. Fifteen years deserves marking, with whatever suits the two of you.
What to write in a fifteenth anniversary card
Three short examples to adapt:
- "Fifteen years, and it is clearer than ever that I chose well. Happy anniversary."
- "Every minute of fifteen years, and I would not give one back."
- "Crystal for fifteen. Careful with it, the way you have always been careful with me."
Before this came the fourteenth anniversary, traditionally ivory; the previous milestone was tin at ten years, and the next is china at twenty. The whole chart is in gifts for every anniversary year.