Often when we discuss self love we forget a very important aspect, and that is self respect. We can love ourselves to an extent but if we can respect ourselves on top of accepting who we are, that’s where the true power comes in. When we respect ourselves, we make better decisions knowing what we will or won’t tolerate. Today, we’ll discuss what self respect looks like, and how to begin the process of building respect for ourselves.
What Self Respect Looks Like
To start, think about someone who you admire. List out the qualities you look up to, the influence these people have over you, and how they carry themselves. What makes you respect them? How do you interact with them due to that respect? These are all great questions to start asking yourself in order to build your own self respect. Keep these traits in mind for the following segment.
In essences, self respect is two parts: action and perspective. There are certain actions we take that generate self-respect and by continuing to take those actions we continue to gain more self respect. For instance self respect means leaving toxic situations such as: setting and enforcing healthy boundaries, not being intoxicated in public, not fighting in public, ending a relationship (friendship or romantic) that’s disrespectful. It also looks like being a respected member of the community such as: being of service, holding a job that allows you to be independent, or perhaps holding a leadership role in the community.
The second part is perspective. How do you see yourself? Think about how you see that person who you respect and find ways to see yourself in the same light. It may include embracing your body, saying affirmations, reminding yourself of how worthy you are for just breathing.
How we see ourselves will ultimately be how others see us as well. When we truly value who we are, others we treat us accordingly. With that said, someone who respects themselves will feel confident, humble, happy, assure of themselves and walks with grace. They speak eloquently and are able to look people in the eyes. They know they belong in the room with other leaders. They know they are able to hold healthy relationships and interactions with strangers. Yet they don’t demand it, they command it.
How To Get Started
We all have some degree of self respect. It’s how we base our decisions. To heighten or raise our self respect, begins with awareness. Where do you feel you need to change? How would you like to feel about yourself? Compared to the person whom you respect, how can you see or carry yourself differently?
Start making a list of the areas you’d like to improve. It can be something like this: walk confidently into a room, be in relationships where I feel appreciated, be able to look people in the eyes. Then on the other side of the list, write out the actions that would reflect that change. It might look like stop drinking if that affects a bunch of your decisions. It may look like repeating affirmations all through the day. It could mean detoxing and letting go of relationships that are holding you back (especially those guys who only call for one specific reason). It may mean dressing better, and wearing clothes that make you feel confident. It may mean having your hair done professionally. It may be as simple as saying NO more. Whatever it is that will make you stand taller and feel your best, do that.
The Cliff Notes
When we respect ourselves, the world around us respects us. Healthy boundaries are a sign of self respect. Dressing our best is a sign of self respect. Holding relationships that are honorable and healthy are a sign of self respect. How we talk to ourselves and others is a sign of self respect. The first place to start is begin to monitor all these key traits and see where we can improve. Self respect leads to more and more opportunities of happiness and wholeness.
Question Of The Day
What is one area you’ll be working on in order to cultivate more self respect?