There comes a time in everyone’s life where we can feel a little trapped by the daily grind. The same routines day-in-day-out, the same income, the same people, and the same relationships. While some areas of our life may be flourishing, thriving, and abundant, there could be parts of our daily routine that is bringing us down and affecting everything else. It happens! It takes a lot of awareness and conscious decision-making to be completely happy with every aspect of our lives. Most people don’t admit it, but to be truly happy, it is something that we must work on daily to ensure that we achieve it.
So what can you do right this minute to change your life? Perfect question! Today I wanted to share three areas that will drastically make an impact on your daily experience and assist in achieving more of what you want. I hope it gives you the confidence you need to pursue your happiness.
Is it selfish to want to be happy? Do you feel as if you can’t really focus on yourself and living your best life because you feel as if you should be focusing on others? Or because you’re really quite privileged compared to the amount of suffering or bad things that go on in the world? You’re not the only one. So many of us suppress our wants and needs in life for the wrong reasons. When you’re not focusing on yourself and living your best life, you may find yourself feeling unsatisfied and unfulfilled. Even if you’re okay with that right now, saying to yourself, “Oh it could be worse,” it may go on to manifest into a mid-life crisis in the future. And that, my friends, can be horrific. So it’s time for you to recognize that it’s okay to be selfish and to focus on what you want.
Can one person really make a difference? Yes, of course they can, and that person can be you. Rather than living a life always thinking about your wants and needs, you can do something today, this week, and this year, that will change the world around you.
What do we mean? Well, consider the following.
“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be” – Abraham Lincoln.
This year has been a year of reflection. I have consistently challenged myself with different ideals and ways of thinking. One aspect that I have recently been fascinated in, is cultivating happiness. I began with the question, “Are we capable of being happy no matter what the situation may be?”
Happy Motivational Monday! I am enjoying this new series of discussing mental health, self-worth, and empowerment, and I hope you are too. When I first started blogging (way before this blog even existed), all I would write about was how to find joy in life. I remembered how effortless it was to find topics to discuss because there were always obstacles to overcome and ways to learn from each.
In case you missed it, the most recent articles were about the mental health affects of Instagram, and why you shouldn’t work for free. If you haven’t seen those yet, go ahead and read the awesome topics and especially the discussions formulated in the comment section! So awesome to read everyone’s input.
Back in 2016, there was a popular watch company that so many bloggers worked with. They were the “it” brand to collaborate with and I couldn’t wait for my turn! Then, one random week day I received and email from this popular watch brand’s team. They were interested in work with me on Instagram. I was so excited! I read through their briefing, and was kind of taken back by all the requests. It was the most extensive briefing I had received at that point, but I didn’t care because I wanted to work with this company for months now. I followed up the email exchange with the typical, “I am very interested, what is your budget?”.
That’s when things got interesting. It turned out that this “it” watch company isn’t interested in paying bloggers or influencers even when requesting at least 3 very meticulous Instagram post per watch. Guess what happened? I declined the collaboration, and soon enough a majority of other bloggers and influencers stopped working with the brand as well.
It is hard to simply walk down the street without someone holding their phone arms length in front of their face trying to get that perfect selfie. The term, “do it for the ‘gram”, has become an all too familiar phrase. Trying to get “insta famous” or become and “instagram model”, is the new profession for our youths. But what is happening to our mental well being?
Oh, the “cool girl”. We all know that one girl who is capable of pounding back beers, maintains that chill factor, is a size 2 and gorgeous. Well that’s at least how the writers in Hollywood imagine her to be.
You see, the cool girl doesn’t exist. It isn’t a real person but a persona invented primarily by guys who wish they could find a girl like this to date in real life. The effects though, is entirely damaging to women as a whole.
Today is a big topic that affects the majority of the population. Self-sabotage or self sabotaging, is the act of ruining or hurting our chances of obtaining something we long for. It could be a career goal, a relationship, personal health goal, or even the chance of daily happiness.
Often times, we don’t realize we are self sabotaging. The reason being is, it is so instinctive that it has become the norm of living. To demonstrate and explain more, I’ll use my own personal experiences when it comes to self sabotage, because after all, I was once a queen at it.