“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be” – Abraham Lincoln.
This year has been a year of reflection. I have consistently challenged myself with different ideals and ways of thinking. One aspect that I have recently been fascinated in, is cultivating happiness. I began with the question, “Are we capable of being happy no matter what the situation may be?”
Happy Motivational Monday! I am enjoying this new series of discussing mental health, self-worth, and empowerment, and I hope you are too. When I first started blogging (way before this blog even existed), all I would write about was how to find joy in life. I remembered how effortless it was to find topics to discuss because there were always obstacles to overcome and ways to learn from each.
In case you missed it, the most recent articles were about the mental health affects of Instagram, and why you shouldn’t work for free. If you haven’t seen those yet, go ahead and read the awesome topics and especially the discussions formulated in the comment section! So awesome to read everyone’s input.
Back in 2016, there was a popular watch company that so many bloggers worked with. They were the “it” brand to collaborate with and I couldn’t wait for my turn! Then, one random week day I received and email from this popular watch brand’s team. They were interested in work with me on Instagram. I was so excited! I read through their briefing, and was kind of taken back by all the requests. It was the most extensive briefing I had received at that point, but I didn’t care because I wanted to work with this company for months now. I followed up the email exchange with the typical, “I am very interested, what is your budget?”.
That’s when things got interesting. It turned out that this “it” watch company isn’t interested in paying bloggers or influencers even when requesting at least 3 very meticulous Instagram post per watch. Guess what happened? I declined the collaboration, and soon enough a majority of other bloggers and influencers stopped working with the brand as well.
It is hard to simply walk down the street without someone holding their phone arms length in front of their face trying to get that perfect selfie. The term, “do it for the ‘gram”, has become an all too familiar phrase. Trying to get “insta famous” or become and “instagram model”, is the new profession for our youths. But what is happening to our mental well being?
Oh, the “cool girl”. We all know that one girl who is capable of pounding back beers, maintains that chill factor, is a size 2 and gorgeous. Well that’s at least how the writers in Hollywood imagine her to be.
You see, the cool girl doesn’t exist. It isn’t a real person but a persona invented primarily by guys who wish they could find a girl like this to date in real life. The effects though, is entirely damaging to women as a whole.
Today is a big topic that affects the majority of the population. Self-sabotage or self sabotaging, is the act of ruining or hurting our chances of obtaining something we long for. It could be a career goal, a relationship, personal health goal, or even the chance of daily happiness.
Often times, we don’t realize we are self sabotaging. The reason being is, it is so instinctive that it has become the norm of living. To demonstrate and explain more, I’ll use my own personal experiences when it comes to self sabotage, because after all, I was once a queen at it.
Thank you Not Jess Fashion for this awesome post about reflecting and the blog tips you enclosed. After reading, I realized holy cow, we are at the half way point. 6 months have past since January 1st when all those feelings of a fresh start and anything is possible was overwhelming. But guess what, anything is still possible! This is a good time to sit down and take inventory of what is happening, what has happened, and where you want to go. Here is how!
I always half joke that no one will know I am married until a year after (whenever that might be… I am not married… Mom, don’t worry). At first I wasn’t going to write this article because I didn’t think it was worth discussing, but than I realized this kind of IS important.
Oh my gosh, the snow is coming down today in New York City. It is insanely beautiful if you can stay in doors and not travel in the blizzard. I am right now as we speak sitting at my empty, bare desk as I finish packing up my beautiful apartment.