We are our own worst enemies. That’s an undeniable fact. We think things about ourselves we would never dream of thinking about other people. The majority of us pour scorn and doubt on ourselves in every little thing we do. For many of, this primarily takes the form of hatred about our appearances. Others still get home from a night out and analyze every last thing they feel they did wrong. And, when it comes to the big decisions in life, most of us put more obstacles in our way than anyone else would ever dream of.
It’s the old cliche, isn’t it? We’re forever standing in our own way. In extreme cases, we end up making ourselves miserable. Luckily, many of us are becoming aware of this and taking positive steps to change. We now use things like positive affirmations and self-love on a daily basis. And, there’s no denying the positive impact they’re having on the way we treat ourselves.
Are you stuck on the bottom rung of the career ladder? Are you stuck in a job that you hate? Many of us are, but the question we have to ask ourselves is this…Don’t we only have ourselves to blame?
While we could point the fingers at others, we may be self-sabotaging. Our fears could be holding us back, and that is why we are still where we are, and not where we have always wanted to be.
Let’s have a look at some of the fears that may be holding you back.
You see things 20/20 in hindsight, and recently I sat down and reviewed what a year it has been. It’s my annual tradition leading up to the fresh new year to come. I love to see how much I was able to accomplish from the goals I set, what I can improve on, and what I achieved that I didn’t even plan on doing! I then follow it up with writing out a brand new list of goals for next year. I do this every single year, and without fail, I am able to cross off nearly each goal on that list! It’s pretty spectacular. I want to share with you how I am able to do this, and why this year in particular has been the best one yet! It requires only a few simple habits that anyone can implement to create the life they’ve always dreamed of. So are you ready?
This is a really vulnerable article to write that I contemplated about sharing. Ultimately, at the end of the day, I kept hearing over and over again I need to share this. I need to share this because it could possibly helping another person who may really need to hear this as well. So here we go, even if it is a tad bit vulnerable for me, I am grateful I am given the change to potentially help another person.
About three month ago, I went through one of the hardest times of my life. Not THE hardest, but dang close to it. I knew I needed something I could read ever single day all through the day that will build me up. I needed something that felt like a gigantic hug that I could give to myself each time I felt down. I wanted to teach myself how to pull myself back up by my bootstraps, and give myself the security and love I deserved.
I sat down one night and just wrote. The words came easily and flowed right onto my screen. I had no idea what I had written until it was all done. Definitely one of those higher power experiences. When I read back all that I had written, it touch on every single point that I needed healing.
How many of us have been told, you should look in the mirror and say out loud positive elements about yourself? Not only that but believe what you are saying. How many of us cringe at the idea of actually doing this? I know I am raising my hand. Like with everything else that is new, it’s a tad bit uncomfortable to begin with.
However, the power of affirmations is a confidence booster when done right. There are ways to make it feel natural and more authentic, and not at all cringe worthy. In this article, I am sharing why affirmations work, how to get started, and ways to shift your mindset in order to live the life you’ve dreamed. Are you ready? Keep reading!
I have written a couple articles on how Instagram can impact your mental well being, as well as why I don’t post my relationship on social media. Both of those articles seemed to have resonated with individuals. I even went as far as shared 3 apps that will help your mental health. Today though, I want to share the other side of Instagram, the reason why I still use the app and how it has positively changed my life. I do believe there are ways around the negative impact of social media if you are mindful of who you follow and how much time you spend on the app. When using Instagram in a way that works for you, it can be an incredible outlet.
Here’s how Instagram positively changed my Life:
Recently, I had gone through a rough patch emotionally and physically. Like, ya’ll we have a lot of catching up to do. But I’ll save it for another day and time, I am still learning how I can share it in away that can benefit another person or help others. I am also still very much learning and growing from all of it. I truly believe, that if you want healthy changes in your life, it begins with YOU. Or in this case, myself. And that any obstacle is meant to make you freaking fierce, stronger, and more beautiful.
I digress… anyway due to all the emotional stress, I physically started to feel off. I could barely move I was so tired. No joke, one day I did half my hair then fell back into bed to take a nap. When I “powered through” on those days I needed to show up and be in attendance, I felt this low grade nausea. On top of that, I started breaking out as if I had hit puberty again. You can imagine how much fun this was.
I had experienced these symptoms for over a month and a half before I finally asked a friend who had gone through a similar situation I had this past Summer, if this was normal. She said, “Sounds like you have adrenal fatigue, a very common side effect from trauma and stress.” I Google searched what the heck adrenal fatigue is, and turns out… I had nearly every symptom.
In this article, I am sharing what I personally learned about the disorder and what has helped me restore my health. DISCLAIMER: I am obviously not a medical doctor nor specialist in this field. It’s always best to consult with your medical practitioner before taking any supplements or changing your diet. I DO want to shed light on this disorder and what has been beneficial in my recover for those who may be struggling as well.
There comes a time in everyone’s life where we can feel a little trapped by the daily grind. The same routines day-in-day-out, the same income, the same people, and the same relationships. While some areas of our life may be flourishing, thriving, and abundant, there could be parts of our daily routine that is bringing us down and affecting everything else. It happens! It takes a lot of awareness and conscious decision-making to be completely happy with every aspect of our lives. Most people don’t admit it, but to be truly happy, it is something that we must work on daily to ensure that we achieve it.
So what can you do right this minute to change your life? Perfect question! Today I wanted to share three areas that will drastically make an impact on your daily experience and assist in achieving more of what you want. I hope it gives you the confidence you need to pursue your happiness.
Is it selfish to want to be happy? Do you feel as if you can’t really focus on yourself and living your best life because you feel as if you should be focusing on others? Or because you’re really quite privileged compared to the amount of suffering or bad things that go on in the world? You’re not the only one. So many of us suppress our wants and needs in life for the wrong reasons. When you’re not focusing on yourself and living your best life, you may find yourself feeling unsatisfied and unfulfilled. Even if you’re okay with that right now, saying to yourself, “Oh it could be worse,” it may go on to manifest into a mid-life crisis in the future. And that, my friends, can be horrific. So it’s time for you to recognize that it’s okay to be selfish and to focus on what you want.
Can one person really make a difference? Yes, of course they can, and that person can be you. Rather than living a life always thinking about your wants and needs, you can do something today, this week, and this year, that will change the world around you.
What do we mean? Well, consider the following.
“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be” – Abraham Lincoln.
This year has been a year of reflection. I have consistently challenged myself with different ideals and ways of thinking. One aspect that I have recently been fascinated in, is cultivating happiness. I began with the question, “Are we capable of being happy no matter what the situation may be?”
Happy Motivational Monday! I am enjoying this new series of discussing mental health, self-worth, and empowerment, and I hope you are too. When I first started blogging (way before this blog even existed), all I would write about was how to find joy in life. I remembered how effortless it was to find topics to discuss because there were always obstacles to overcome and ways to learn from each.
In case you missed it, the most recent articles were about the mental health affects of Instagram, and why you shouldn’t work for free. If you haven’t seen those yet, go ahead and read the awesome topics and especially the discussions formulated in the comment section! So awesome to read everyone’s input.
Back in 2016, there was a popular watch company that so many bloggers worked with. They were the “it” brand to collaborate with and I couldn’t wait for my turn! Then, one random week day I received and email from this popular watch brand’s team. They were interested in work with me on Instagram. I was so excited! I read through their briefing, and was kind of taken back by all the requests. It was the most extensive briefing I had received at that point, but I didn’t care because I wanted to work with this company for months now. I followed up the email exchange with the typical, “I am very interested, what is your budget?”.
That’s when things got interesting. It turned out that this “it” watch company isn’t interested in paying bloggers or influencers even when requesting at least 3 very meticulous Instagram post per watch. Guess what happened? I declined the collaboration, and soon enough a majority of other bloggers and influencers stopped working with the brand as well.
It is hard to simply walk down the street without someone holding their phone arms length in front of their face trying to get that perfect selfie. The term, “do it for the ‘gram”, has become an all too familiar phrase. Trying to get “insta famous” or become an “instagram model”, is the new profession for our youths. But what is happening to our mental well being?