Confession: I allowed people’s opinions to hold me back

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Not too long ago, I cared more about other people’s opinions, comfort, and well-being than my own. And it was stifling my career.

I developed this serious obsession with people pleasing. The idea was lodged in my head that I am not supposed to “take too much”, “ask too much”, and “make sure I don’t rock the boat”. I said yes to obligations because I truly didn’t know how to say no. My time was no longer mine. If this makes sense to you, keep reading…

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Want a drama free life? Read this right now!

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I remember vividly my college professor telling the class, “tell your friends to stop calling you about their bad news”. It shocked me. First, because I didn’t know where it was coming from. Secondly, the thought of telling people I loved to stop coming to me with bad news horrified me.

I have long been associated as the person with great advice, the therapist of the group. So you can see why this would rattle my core. What would happen if I didn’t help solve my friends and families problems? Even though I was unsure of the outcome, I slowly began implementing this rule over a few years. I was amazed what happened next.

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10 Years Ago I Did the Unthinkable

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February 22nd, 2007 I took a detour from my immaculately planned out life and confronted my darkest secrets head on. In turn, I changed the course of my life forever. It was the scariest moment going through it, but I am afraid where I would be now if I didn’t. Here is my personal recovery from sexual abuse, and what happened ten years ago.

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The One Super Bowl Commercial You Need To Watch

Today’s a big day focused on food, football, and commercials. It is the highest paid ad time for a reason reaching roughly 100 million viewers. And unlike most shows, these viewers actually want to watch the commercials. So when Audi presented this ad for their Super Bowl time slot, there is a reason to pause and watch:

 

To have a gender equality ad during a predominantly male sport is incredibly powerful. The message itself cuts straight to the point; women are significantly undervalued when compared to men, and we have an immediate disadvantage for just being a woman.  I only hope that this simple message clarifies why we need to push for equal rights and evokes more men to join the cause (we need your help men!). After all, what dad wants to tell their daughter, “you can’t have the world because you are a girl.”

Thank you Audi for this powerful ad and paying the 5 million dollars+ price tag to air this message during the most highly viewed time of the year. I support your effort in closing the gender gap.

If you want to learn how you can help close the gender gap and promote equality, here are a few organizations I love:

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2016 Outtakes, A Review Of The Year

2016 was a tough year for many people. There was a lot of loss and tragedy around the world. To lighten the mood and to say goodbye, I thought today I would share some outtakes that didn’t make the blog (or any social media accounts). They are funny, ridiculous, cute and candid moments from 2016. Of course, I couldn’t have done all of this without some incredible people. I love you, I hope you enjoy, and I will see you in 2017!

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Love Versus Emotional Abuse

This is going to be one of the more controversial articles I will write, but I find it important to start a conversation around it. Why? Because on a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide¹.

There is a difference between being loved and being abused. Yet the ways of being emotionally abused in a relationship can be incredibly discrete.

I have watched as many loved ones excuse behaviors on the basis of “oh he really loves me”. I have even done that! I have accepted really crappy behavior from previous partners because “he loves me”. Or I longed to feel loved, even if it is just crumbs. But this is not okay! First off, no one deserves to be hurt. Secondly, whether we realize it or not, there is a long lasting effect from being in these abusive relationships. It crushes our self-worth in the long run. Each time we accept unacceptable behavior, we are saying, “oh I deserve that treatment, I am not worth being respected.”

What Emotional Abuse Looks Like

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