February 22nd, 2007 I took a detour from my immaculately planned out life and confronted my darkest secrets head on. In turn, I changed the course of my life forever. It was the scariest moment going through it, but I am afraid where I would be now if I didn’t. Here is my story, and what happened ten years ago.
I often don’t share hardships I deal with daily. Mainly to avoid giving it more attention or power than it needs. I live by the popular phrase “don’t give life to it”. But today I am shedding light on ways I have learned to roll with the punches when facing obstacles.
Today’s a big day focused on food, football, and commercials. It is the highest paid ad time for a reason reaching roughly 100 million viewers. And unlike most shows, these viewers actually want to watch the commercials. So when Audi presented this ad for their Super Bowl time slot, there is a reason to pause and watch:
To have a gender equality ad during a predominantly male sport is incredibly powerful. The message itself cuts straight to the point; women are significantly undervalued when compared to men, and we have an immediate disadvantage for just being a woman. I only hope that this simple message clarifies why we need to push for equal rights and evokes more men to join the cause (we need your help men!). After all, what dad wants to tell their daughter, “you can’t have the world because you are a girl.”
Thank you Audi for this powerful ad and paying the 5 million dollars+ price tag to air this message during the most highly viewed time of the year. I support your effort in closing the gender gap.
If you want to learn how you can help close the gender gap and promote equality, here are a few organizations I love:
2016 was a tough year for many people. There was a lot of loss and tragedy around the world. To lighten the mood and to say goodbye, I thought today I would share some outtakes that didn’t make the blog (or any social media accounts). They are funny, ridiculous, cute and candid moments from 2016. Of course, I couldn’t have done all of this without some incredible people. I love you, I hope you enjoy, and I will see you in 2017!
This is going to be one of the more controversial articles I will write, but I find it important to start a conversation around it. Why? Because on a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide¹.
There is a difference between being loved and being abused. Yet the ways of being emotionally abused in a relationship can be incredibly discrete.
I have watched as many loved ones excuse behaviors on the basis of “oh he really loves me”. I have even done that! I have accepted really crappy behavior from previous partners because “he loves me”. Or I longed to feel loved, even if it is just crumbs. But this is not okay! First off, no one deserves to be hurt. Secondly, whether we realize it or not, there is a long lasting effect from being in these abusive relationships. It crushes our self-worth in the long run. Each time we accept unacceptable behavior, we are saying, “oh I deserve that treatment, I am not worth being respected.”
What Emotional Abuse Looks Like
Happy Monday everyone. Last week I talked about change and the ways that helped me move through transitions or tough times. I was amazed how many people really responded to that topic and thought that this week I would share about perspective. It is amazing how the world changes once we change how we see it.
Here is how I see life. An excerpt from my personal journal:
First, I want to thank all the lovely comments and support while I have been away! I apologize it has been pretty quiet on the blog front last week. While some may know, I have been going through a lot of changes and it finally all hit last week. Since I begrudgingly admit I am human and the very normal feelings of fear, sadness, anxiety, and anger began to creep in- I decided to step away and take care of myself while finding my footing again.
While I just moved (which is a big milestone in itself) I also have been going through some massive personal changes. I won’t dive into it because I don’t want to hurt anyone else involved, but it really reminded me of what I would do when I faced these momentous points in life.
While today isn’t a fashion post, hang in there, I will have those soon enough. Instead, I want to share certain really HEALTHY steps I choose to combat the human feelings of fear, anxiety or feeling overwhelmed. While feeling feelings are crucial, constantly living in fear or sadness is not. This is what I found works for me.
I recently wrote an article for a friend about following your dreams. Pursuing your passions. The moment I sat down and began typing words of inspirations I had acquired through the years, I was flooded with feelings. For me writing is the process of taking a moment to pause, think, reflect and compose a letter to my closest friends (you). When constructing the piece on following dreams, I was reminded of what life is about. At least how I see it, and what I believe it is. I live by two pillars.
I don’t even know where to begin. I have edited and rewritten this article 43 times. I’ve walked away from this post to breathe, remember where I am today, and relax. This was the hardest article to write.
Lately, I have been bombarded by articles of teens and young women who have been raped. Most of us have been discussing the Stanford student who raped a young woman. We all know that this horrible abuse exists, but I don’t feel like we know how prevalent sexual abuse towards women is in our society. I also don’t think we understand the long-lasting effects of sexual abuse. We squirm at the thought and would rather ignore it. In reality, we need to stand up and say, “This has to end”.
The last article I read made me furious to the point I knew that I had to finally share my own story. To share what it is really like to survive sexual abuse in today’s society.