“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be” – Abraham Lincoln.
This year has been a year of reflection. I have consistently challenged myself with different ideals and ways of thinking. One aspect that I have recently been fascinated in, is cultivating happiness. I began with the question, “Are we capable of being happy no matter what the situation may be?”
Coming back to America after traveling around the world, was nothing less than a shock to the system. I learned so much, grew as a person, and changed while I was away. One thing that ignited in my persona is the desire to endlessly explore.
While away, I gained a new found appreciation for New York City. After visiting 7 countries and 12 cities abroad, there is no place like New York. It is the melting pot of so many types of people and cultures. There is so much going on at all times of the day and night. There are a variety of neighborhoods packed with culture and sightseeing. It’s impossible to go hungry with all the delicious food options.
Back in 2016, there was a popular watch company that so many bloggers worked with. They were the “it” brand to collaborate with and I couldn’t wait for my turn! Then, one random week day I received and email from this popular watch brand’s team. They were interested in work with me on Instagram. I was so excited! I read through their briefing, and was kind of taken back by all the requests. It was the most extensive briefing I had received at that point, but I didn’t care because I wanted to work with this company for months now. I followed up the email exchange with the typical, “I am very interested, what is your budget?”.
That’s when things got interesting. It turned out that this “it” watch company isn’t interested in paying bloggers or influencers even when requesting at least 3 very meticulous Instagram post per watch. Guess what happened? I declined the collaboration, and soon enough a majority of other bloggers and influencers stopped working with the brand as well.
It is hard to simply walk down the street without someone holding their phone arms length in front of their face trying to get that perfect selfie. The term, “do it for the ‘gram”, has become an all too familiar phrase. Trying to get “insta famous” or become and “instagram model”, is the new profession for our youths. But what is happening to our mental well being?
Oh, the “cool girl”. We all know that one girl who is capable of pounding back beers, maintains that chill factor, is a size 2 and gorgeous. Well that’s at least how the writers in Hollywood imagine her to be.
You see, the cool girl doesn’t exist. It isn’t a real person but a persona invented primarily by guys who wish they could find a girl like this to date in real life. The effects though, is entirely damaging to women as a whole.
People say that there’s a career for every personality, and you should always choose a calling that represents your inner values and personal traits. A friend recently turned to me and said, ” I don’t think you are tapping into your fullest potential and using all your skill sets”. I was baffled. It had been on my mind lately, different ways I could hone in on my caring nature and my ability to help others. It made think of the different opportunities and careers that are out there for that distinct personality trait. Here are a few that popped up. Keep reading and let me know which one you would choose!
Today is a big topic that affects the majority of the population. Self-sabotage or self sabotaging, is the act of ruining or hurting our chances of obtaining something we long for. It could be a career goal, a relationship, personal health goal, or even the chance of daily happiness.
Often times, we don’t realize we are self sabotaging. The reason being is, it is so instinctive that it has become the norm of living. To demonstrate and explain more, I’ll use my own personal experiences when it comes to self sabotage, because after all, I was once a queen at it.
Thank you Not Jess Fashion for this awesome post about reflecting and the blog tips you enclosed. After reading, I realized holy cow, we are at the half way point. 6 months have past since January 1st when all those feelings of a fresh start and anything is possible was overwhelming. But guess what, anything is still possible! This is a good time to sit down and take inventory of what is happening, what has happened, and where you want to go. Here is how!
“Too often, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut, doing the same thing the same way over and over every day. But if we are going to live at our absolute best, we should constantly be growing and sharpening our skills. We should strive to learn and grow every single day because when you stop learning, you stop growing. When you stop growing, you stop living.