I had this idea floating in my mind for awhile to start a column on here dedicated towards sipping coffee and digging into some real issue. Carving out conversations around current events, concepts that are relevant to women, and what is happening in my life that you could possibly relate to. Talks that inspire change, happiness, moments of clarity, and a community of women. Would this be something you would like to read on a weekly basis? It could be Sundays or Wednesday that these posts air, let me know in the comments what days you have more free time to sit and dive deep into these kind of topics.
It occurred to me while I was on my second phone call with a good friend as she said in the calmest voice, “you’re going to be finnneeee. If anyone can do this it is you. You’re a fucking survivor,” that the sensations I was feeling were none other than that all too familiar phase of… leaving my comfort zone.
It was 10 o’clock at night in New York and I had this gnawing feeling of lost, hopelessness, and impending doom that made me reach for my phone to call my friend. She lives in Los Angeles, where the time difference for once work in our favor. I had hit my emotional and physical limit. I was burnt out, sleep deprived, and had made more steps forward than I even gave myself credit. I mean, mega, giant, who-is-this-strong-boss-babe steps forward. One after the other towards goals I had been thinking about for years. I had entered a new realm that I never faced before. A week prior, I made the ultimate and most powerful decision… to stop playing small and start playing in the big leagues.
It was not my intentions to be on the road for this long. In fact, the initial haphazard plan of mine consisted of three months of traveling around the world. I went off on my own with very little investigation to where I was heading. Meaning, no hotels planned out, no returning fights. Just three one way tickets to Tokyo, then Dubai, and then Greece. I thought that was pretty adventurous, but my little plan was completely blown out of the water when I fully surrendered in September and allowed the universe take control. Don’t worry, I’ll explain below.
What occurred as a result? An additional 9 months were added to my itinerary. Road trips, cruises (my first), flying all around the United States, and a sweet trip through Central and South America. So with all the new cities, new friends, and long travel days, what did I gain in my year of travel? Probably more than I’m even conscious of, but here are the significant points that I keep returning to while reminiscing about each location.
There’s one thing I do consistently that has proven to be the trick to success. I’ve done this thing every single day for 10 years. I’ve heard other successful leaders vouch for the practice, and deemed it as their reason for success as well. The one trick you need to be successful is…
Show of hands (in the comments) who has a hard time making decisions? Who relies on someone else to make decisions for them? How many times have you heard, “just make a decision, already!”This article is for you.
Decision making affects the self esteem in the sense that we are forced to rely heavily on trusting ourselves in choosing the right path. Often, most indecision comes from second guessing ourselves, giving other people’s opinions too much value, or confusing ourselves by talking over our gut instincts. Today we are discussing how to make decisions faster and eradicating indecisiveness for good.
Today is a big topic that affects the majority of the population. Self-sabotage or self sabotaging, is the act of ruining or hurting our chances of obtaining something we long for. It could be a career goal, a relationship, personal health goal, or even the chance of daily happiness.
Often times, we don’t realize we are self sabotaging. The reason being is, it is so instinctive that it has become the norm of living. To demonstrate and explain more, I’ll use my own personal experiences when it comes to self sabotage, because after all, I was once a queen at it.
A lot of times we’ve heard the phrase “Trust Your Gut Instincts”, that very quiet guiding voice directing our steps. This article isn’t about that voice. This article is about combating that really loud, obnoxious self-doubting, self-defeating voice that flares up every time we try something new.
I’ve lived 32 years of life, and most would say, “you’re so young, how much tragedy could you possibly have faced?” The most common response I receive though is, “I would have never known you’ve gone through all of that just knowing who you are today.” Everyone has a path and journey in life, this just happens to be mine.
It dawned on me to write this one day as I was sitting and looking out the window and began reviewing all of what I had experienced. I thought about each lesson I had gained from each hardship. I have done this often in the past as I approach a new level of awareness or a new chapter in life. In many ways, it puts into perspective what I am facing currently. I find it healthy to remember how far I’ve come. For that matter, I think it is healthy for everyone to reflect on all they have been able to accomplish and what obstacles they’ve overcome.
This article is more of a note to you of all the loss and tragedy I’ve experienced and all the ways I’ve become stronger from it. It’s long and hard-hitting, so get comfortable or bookmark this page to come back to when you are ready. The overall message is of hope and how you too can turn whatever you’ve gone through into something that empowers you. My other purpose and wish is that this gives you a sense of comfort knowing you are not alone in what you’re facing. That many of us have experience the same things, and may just quietly be dealing with it. The greatest relief in my journey is meeting and conversing with other women who have survived what I had experience and went on to lived beautiful, healthy lives. I earnestly wish that is something I can give to you as well. So here we go, I will start from the beginning as I’ve heard it is the very good place to start. Here are the lessons learned from tragedy:
Hi my loves! I hope you all are having a wonderful holiday season. This is typically the point in time where we start dreaming about the new year that is a mere week away. As a kid, I would dread January. But as an adult, I’ve grown to love how much the month feels like a fresh start. Last night, I was thinking about the goals and dreams I have for 2019. The biggest point that stood out was, how important it is to invest in one’s self.
So what does that mean?
What a beautiful year it has been. If you are new to this blog, today is my birthday as well as the magical day of Christmas. I use to not like sharing my day with one of the largest holidays of the year, but each year as I get older, I truly am so grateful. I get to share this day with many people I love and celebrate on a large scale. I love that everyone gets to receive gifts, eat delicious food, and feel delighted for a day.
If you celebrate this holiday, I want to wish you the merriest Christmas. If you don’t, I hope you have a wonderful day enjoying each and every moment of being alive. Hug loved ones a little bit tighter, do something kind for yourself, and indulge in a little something extra sweet. With all that said, I want to share a bit of news…
This is a really vulnerable article to write that I contemplated about sharing. Ultimately, at the end of the day, I kept hearing over and over again I need to share this. I need to share this because it could possibly helping another person who may really need to hear this as well. So here we go, even if it is a tad bit vulnerable for me, I am grateful I am given the chance to potentially help another person.
About three month ago, I went through one of the hardest times of my life. Not THE hardest, but dang close to it. I knew I needed something I could read ever single day all through the day that will build me up. I needed something that felt like a gigantic hug that I could give to myself each time I felt down. I wanted to teach myself how to pull myself back up by my bootstraps, and give myself the security and love I deserved.
I sat down one night and just wrote. The words came easily and flowed right onto my screen. I had no idea what I had written until it was all done. Definitely one of those higher power experiences. When I read back all that I had written, it touch on every single point that I needed healing.
Recently, I had gone through a rough patch emotionally and physically. Like, ya’ll we have a lot of catching up to do. But I’ll save it for another day and time, I am still learning how I can share it in away that can benefit another person or help others. I am also still very much learning and growing from all of it. I truly believe, that if you want healthy changes in your life, it begins with YOU. Or in this case, myself. And that any obstacle is meant to make you freaking fierce, stronger, and more beautiful.
I digress… anyway due to all the emotional stress, I physically started to feel off. I could barely move I was so tired. No joke, one day I did half my hair then fell back into bed to take a nap. When I “powered through” on those days I needed to show up and be in attendance, I felt this low grade nausea. On top of that, I started breaking out as if I had hit puberty again. You can imagine how much fun this was.
I had experienced these symptoms for over a month and a half before I finally asked a friend who had gone through a similar situation I had this past Summer, if this was normal. She said, “Sounds like you have adrenal fatigue, a very common side effect from trauma and stress.” I Google searched what the heck adrenal fatigue is, and turns out… I had nearly every symptom.
In this article, I am sharing what I personally learned about the disorder and what has helped me restore my health. DISCLAIMER: I am obviously not a medical doctor nor specialist in this field. It’s always best to consult with your medical practitioner before taking any supplements or changing your diet. I DO want to shed light on this disorder and what has been beneficial in my recover for those who may be struggling as well.
“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be” – Abraham Lincoln.
This year has been a year of reflection. I have consistently challenged myself with different ideals and ways of thinking. One aspect that I have recently been fascinated in, is cultivating happiness. I began with the question, “Are we capable of being happy no matter what the situation may be?”
Coming back to America after traveling around the world, was nothing less than a shock to the system. I learned so much, grew as a person, and changed while I was away. One thing that ignited in my persona is the desire to endlessly explore.
While away, I gained a new found appreciation for New York City. After visiting 7 countries and 12 cities abroad, there is no place like New York. It is the melting pot of so many types of people and cultures. There is so much going on at all times of the day and night. There are a variety of neighborhoods packed with culture and sightseeing. It’s impossible to go hungry with all the delicious food options.