5 Defeating Actions Keeping You From Success

5 defeating actions keeping your from success

Whether we realize it or not, we often get in our own way of success. Sometimes it is a habit we formed over the years, other times it is a mindset we inherited from our environment. Here are five defeating actions keeping you from success.

Negative Self Talk And Expecting Defeat

Words are extremely powerful. Do you catch yourself saying “it will never happen, I will never accomplish my dreams“,  “I can’t do it“, “I’ll never get married“? Chances are, you’re setting yourself up for failure before you even begin. Having this negative mindset only perpetuates our fears. We begin believing in the worse case scenario and in turn start steering our life in that direction. Making it difficult for ourselves to actually accomplish what we want.

However, when we start talking to ourselves in an encouraging way (read more about talking yourself into success here), strange things happen! We actually are able to finish that run, complete the project, get that raise, find that spouse. Start cheering yourself on and speaking highly over your life and see what happens.

Letting other people’s judgment and opinions get the best of you.

If you haven’t already, you can read how I use to be obsessed with what people thought of me and how it destroyed my chances of success here. Being all consumed in what people think, or afraid of failing in front of others can really prevent you from going for your dreams. Learning to let go of that fear, and completely block out opinions is vital. I realized that most people have no clue what they are doing in their own life anyway, so their opinions on my life really shouldn’t matter.

Not writing down your goals or dreams.

Writing down your goals and dreams play a big part in accomplishing them. I’ve heard that our minds are like missiles looking for a target. Your goals and what you have set on paper are your target. Whether you read those goals every day or look at them periodically, the fact that you have a written target is all your brain needs to reach them. I’ve done this plenty of times, and often without realizing it, reached my goals that I have previously written down and tucked away. Let me know in the comments if you had success with this tip!

Hanging out with the wrong crowd.

Are you surrounded by people who – to be blunt- are not going anywhere? Guess what happens? That energy is contagious. I found whenever I hung out with successful individuals who were one step ahead of me, I began to mimic their successful behaviors. I learn through observation how to successfully conduct meetings, business situations, and ways to treated peers. It is always more inspirational to be around people who are going where you want to go.

As hard as it is, let go of individuals who are holding you back or making you feel guilty for wanting more in your life. A trick that I learned is, if they are wasting their own time, they will waste my time as well. And honey, I don’t have any time to waste!

Taking on other people’s problems as your own.

So much energy is lost in getting involved with other people’s drama. It’s not worth it! More than likely there isn’t much you can do to help the situation and not much you can say to change your friend or family member’s mind. Instead of jumping on every call, or logging onto Facebook to read the latest woes of your friends, spend that time advancing your career. Not only will you be more successful, you will feel lighter, happier and maintain healthier relationships.

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  1. I found this post at the right time, have been feeling a bit down these days! Though these are not so easy to follow and you kinda turn out as someone who is ignorant & aloof of their loved ones. It’s just a thin line I feel which people usually forget about, just my observation 🙂


  2. Success is definitely different for everyone. Negative self-talk doesn’t help you or anyone! Positivity actually brings you forward.

    I know a few people who are only good at being judgmental in a negative aspect. I asked myself why they’re like that only to realize that there’s no way they can change. At the end of the day, the only opinion that matters is yourself. Taking on other people’s problems as yours is definitely a problem as well! Thanks for sharing your tips! Definitely insightful :).


  3. This has been such a helpful post! I think negative thoughts is the quickest way to shoot yourself in the foot, and I’ll definitely keep you point in mind about not taking on other people’s problems.


  4. Thanks for sharing this inspiring post. I so agree with your stance on hanging out with the wrong crowd. There are many people out there that can hold you back for many reasons. People who feel threatened and can’t be happy for yours or others success have no place in a friendship. You constantly have to reassess friendships, as the more you succeed the more others tend to try to hold you back.

    Adrianna x | http://mimamochi.com/

  5. I must admit; I am better at being positive now that I am older. However sometimes, when I am particularly down, I compare myself to others when I scroll through instagram.
    Bad habit I know.
    Great tips.
    I think the last – taking on other people’s problems as your own is def a life changer. My mother used to have to worry about us all and now that we have moved out she feels like a weight has been lifted from her shoulders.
    Set to Glow

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