Whether we realize it or not, we often get in our own way of success. Sometimes it is a habit we formed over the years, other times it is a mindset we inherited from our environment. Here are five defeating actions keeping you from success.
Negative Self Talk And Expecting Defeat
Words are extremely powerful. Do you catch yourself saying “it will never happen, I will never accomplish my dreams“, “I can’t do it“, “I’ll never get married“? Chances are, you’re setting yourself up for failure before you even begin. Having this negative mindset only perpetuates our fears. We begin believing in the worse case scenario and in turn start steering our life in that direction. Making it difficult for ourselves to actually accomplish what we want.
However, when we start talking to ourselves in an encouraging way (read more about talking yourself into success here), strange things happen! We actually are able to finish that run, complete the project, get that raise, find that spouse. Start cheering yourself on and speaking highly over your life and see what happens.
Letting other people’s judgment and opinions get the best of you.
If you haven’t already, you can read how I use to be obsessed with what people thought of me and how it destroyed my chances of success here. Being all consumed in what people think, or afraid of failing in front of others can really prevent you from going for your dreams. Learning to let go of that fear, and completely block out opinions is vital. I realized that most people have no clue what they are doing in their own life anyway, so their opinions on my life really shouldn’t matter.
Not writing down your goals or dreams.
Writing down your goals and dreams play a big part in accomplishing them. I’ve heard that our minds are like missiles looking for a target. Your goals and what you have set on paper are your target. Whether you read those goals every day or look at them periodically, the fact that you have a written target is all your brain needs to reach them. I’ve done this plenty of times, and often without realizing it, reached my goals that I have previously written down and tucked away. Let me know in the comments if you had success with this tip!
Hanging out with the wrong crowd.
Are you surrounded by people who – to be blunt- are not going anywhere? Guess what happens? That energy is contagious. I found whenever I hung out with successful individuals who were one step ahead of me, I began to mimic their successful behaviors. I learn through observation how to successfully conduct meetings, business situations, and ways to treated peers. It is always more inspirational to be around people who are going where you want to go.
As hard as it is, let go of individuals who are holding you back or making you feel guilty for wanting more in your life. A trick that I learned is, if they are wasting their own time, they will waste my time as well. And honey, I don’t have any time to waste!
Taking on other people’s problems as your own.
So much energy is lost in getting involved with other people’s drama. It’s not worth it! More than likely there isn’t much you can do to help the situation and not much you can say to change your friend or family member’s mind. Instead of jumping on every call, or logging onto facebook to read the latest woes of your friends, spend that time advancing your career. Not only will you be more successful, you will feel lighter, happier and maintain healthier relationships.
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