What it is like to survive sexual abuse

I don’t even know where to begin. I have edited and rewritten this article 43 times. I’ve walked away from this post to breathe, remember where I am today, and relax. This was the hardest article to write.

Lately, I have been bombarded by articles of teens and young women who have been raped. Most of us have been discussing the Stanford student who raped a young woman. We all know that this horrible abuse exists, but I don’t feel like we know how prevalent sexual abuse towards women is in our society. I also don’t think we understand the long-lasting effects of sexual abuse. We squirm at the thought and would rather ignore it. In reality, we need to stand up and say, “This has to end”.

The last article I read made me furious to the point I knew that I had to finally share my own story. To share what it is really like to survive sexual abuse in today’s society.

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Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic

This past Saturday, I attended the Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic. While it was the 9th annual VC Polo Classic, it was my first time attending. And boy, was it quite the experience. The polo match took place in Liberty State Park, a park I stare at every morning when I open up my shades. None the less it took nearly 2 hours to get there. Droves, upon droves, upon droves of the BEST dressed New Yorkers I have ever seen were all eager to attend the match as well. The ferry line at Battery Park stretched for three hours! Three hours of these gorgeous men and women in the beautiful suits and sundresses (and heels) were patiently waiting to board the 20 minute incremented ferries. Sweat dripped down every well-groomed neck and back. But no one batted an eye. They were troopers, determined to get over to the Park and enjoy the game.

Luckily my fellow blogger Gina from What The Doost, and I had a Rosé Garden ticket that allowed us to skip the line. The reason it took 2 hours was the walk to battery park, the wait for the next ferry (comes every twenty minutes) and the little bit of boat traffic that we experience while on the ferry. My recommendation for commuters to the Polo Match next year is to either get the early access tickets, go super early and bring tons of water and flat shoes, or head to New Jersey and uber it from the Path train. It would have probably cost $25-30, but worth the time you save. You can always take the ferry back, which is a much shorter wait.

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What to Wear to the Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic

The 9th annual Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic is taking place this Saturday, June 4th at Liberty State Park. With a stunning backdrop of the city and the Statue of Liberty, Polo goers will enjoy a glamorous day in the sun. There will be picnics, champagne, the infamous divot stomping, and plenty of fashion. Don’t believe me? Take a look at last year’s best dressed! If you are attending the elite social event, here are a few suggestions and ideas on what to wear. Don’t forget to pack sunscreen!

What to Wear to the Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic:

  1. White. This is the perfect time to pull out your all white sundress. It is not only appropriate but glamorous against the green lawn.
  2. Longer is sometimes better. Depending on your ticket, you may be sitting on the lawn. But of course in the most glam Veuve Clicquot way with chic blankets and umbrellas. Wearing a long maxi dress will make it easier to sit comfortably.
  3. Light Fabrics. Linens suits for men are perfect, and light chiffon or cotton dresses for women are a must. The temperatures tend to be warm with little shade covering the event.
  4. Practical hats. Wear hats that will shield you from the sun, but don’t get polo confused with derbies. Save your most elaborate hats for horse races.
  5. Comfortable shoes. Women, this may be the ONLY time where flats are not only acceptable but preferred. There is a 20-minute walk from the ferry to the event space. Make sure you have appropriate footwear such as beautiful flats or wedges. Skip heels as you will sink into the lawn.
  6. Dress to impress! This is not only a Polo match but a semi fashion show with the best Spring wear on display.

Overall, have a wonderful time at the Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic. It is a truly spectacular, star-studded event.

**EXCITING NEWS: I will be at the Veuve Clicquot Polo Classic as a Rosé Garden attendee this year thanks to The Ambitionista, Blogger Babes, and PR Vein. For live coverage of the event, feel free to follow along on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter!

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How to Treat and Protect Silver Jewelry

I never knew how to take care of precious silver jewelry. As it is one of the most durable of all the precious metals, and more affordable than gold and platinum, I’ve always wanted to invest! However, I tend to fret over purchasing silver pieces because I was scared of them tarnishing or looking dull. These simple steps on how to treat and protect silver jewelry have been a game changer! I hope you enjoy.

What Does Tarnish Mean?

Have you ever seen a piece of silver jewelry that doesn’t look as new and shiny as it did when you first got it? Tarnish on silver jewelry is a layer of corrosion that has formed on the metal. This happens as the metal undergoes a chemical reaction with other compounds, particularly sulfur dioxide and oxygen. Tarnish is typically caused by the way a piece of jewelry is stored and used.

We have put together some top tips that will help you to keep your beautiful sterling silver items looking like new. In fact, preventing tarnish on your pieces is a lot less work than having to remove the tarnish.

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So Many Memorial Day Sales

Happy Memorial Day weekend! The sun is out and the weather is warm! What a way to kickoff the summer. How are you spending your three-day weekend? Relaxing by the pool? Enjoying any fun BBQ’s or concerts? Or are you going to take advantage of all the sales happening this weekend? Let me know in the comments below what you have planned!

For those interested in doing some light shopping, I have conducted a round-up of amazing Memorial Day Sales that you can enjoy from the luxury of your home or poolside. I have also selected my favorite piece from each sale. Enjoy!

Sales for the week:


Also don’t forget Nordstroms half-yearly sale! This is one of my favorite sales of the year. With a plethora of options to choose from here are a few of my favorite picks. Keep scrolling right to view them all, and feel free to click on the piece you love to find out shopping info.

Nordstrom — Up to 40% off at the Half-Yearly Sale (May 25-June 5).

 

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How To Prevent A Blogger Burnout

It is beyond easy to have a blogger burnout. Or have a burnout in general especially as an entrepreneur or startup. There is a ton of work to do,  a lot of different hats to wear, and typically only one person to do it all– you. Without a large budget to start, many bloggers (self-included) are responsible for writing content, producing original photos, marketing, engaging in social media, networking, editing, and pitching to brands.

It is a lot.

What I found helpful to prevent a blogger burnout is incorporating balance and boundaries into my schedule. Think about it, what you are doing now has to last for years to come. If you don’t think you can withhold your current regimen for five years, then these tips may help!

So what does balance look like? Great question, this is how I create balance in my day to day life:

My mornings typically involve returning emails, running to the post office to fulfill Poshmark orders, and  working on social media. These can be draining activities so I make sure to rest before heading into my next task.

Afternoons are dedicated to creative writing. I turn my phone on Do Not Disturb and write whatever comes to mind. This time is precious to me! The whole reason I became a blogger is to write. It is not only work but also a form of creative expression. I gain a lot of energy from this part of my day. A perfect balance to my morning activities. If I have additional time, I tend to dream about where I want to take my blog and career.

Late Afternoons I follow up on additional emails, schedule social media, take meetings. This takes a lot of time and thought process.

Evenings I shut down around 5/6pm. Not because I a done working but I need time to decompress to start the day fresh tomorrow. Unless I have an event, which I will speak about in the next section, I enjoy downtime with friends, working out, or cooking.

Did you notice that through the day there is a balance of activities that were energy draining and energy giving? Try to include that in your own work schedule, and see how that impacts your mood!

As for boundaries, I have very specific set of rules that work for me. Similar to balance, take a moment and see what fits your lifestyle. Are you an introvert or extrovert? What gives you a boost of energy? Incorporate those activities into your schedule and create boundaries based on your own needs. This is what works best for me:

When it comes to events I have learned to select carefully. Prepping, traveling, engaging with new individuals, and meeting brand representatives requires a lot of time, energy, and money. As an introvert, I can easily drain and exhaust my body quickly. Therefore, I carefully select events based on the below information:

  • If it is a PR company without brands represented, I politely decline. I love PR companies, but I prefer working with brands directly and cultivating a strong relationship. I found that having a direct line of communication, I gain more valuable information, access to funding (aka higher quality articles for my readers to enjoy), and promotional info much quicker. In turn, I am able to provide faster, unique, and more useful info to my readers while using my time and energy efficiently.
  • If it has anything to do with alcohol, late night partying, or products that are not cruelty free- I say no. It doesn’t fit my lifestyle or brand image. They may be incredible events, but if I can’t promote it then I am doing a disservice to the brand.
  • When both parties will get something out of the meeting, I say YES! It doesn’t need to be monetary but I do need to get something for my time as well. It may be credibility, a direct line to a brand I want to work with, or something I truly want to experience.  When I am excited and happy to attend the brand can tell and it creates a more authentic post for my readers enjoy. It also creates a better work relationship. Bottom line, people want to work with happy and enthusiatic individuals. And being bored or tired at an event totally shows.

Other boundaries I have:

  • I take weekends off- no emails social media or posts. Instead, I enjoy leisure activities by myself, with friends, or family.
  • I take holidays. Yes, time off just like other people.
  • When I am with friends and family, I do not post photos of the events we are attending. That is my time with them and I respect that quality time immensely.
  • I begin working at 9am  and end at 5/6pm . If I have an evening event I take the afternoon off to rest.
  • I do not text or call anyone (even personal) after 10pm.

These simple guidelines allow me to keep up this work routine for years to come and have a fulfilling life. It also enables me to provide useful, engaging, and fun material that my readers will enjoy. Furthermore, this is a way I can keep healthy and strong relationships with companies, who in turn enjoy working with me.

Does this help? Would you like to read similar articles such as how I avoid writers block or what I do to decompress? Let me know in the comments below!

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Meet Ily Couture

Ily Couture

I cannot believe it has taken me this long to discover the cute online boutique, Ily Couture. The brand launched in 2011 and is bring chic pieces to consumers at an affordable price. Aesthetically speaking, it is totally up my alley with multiple staple piece and trendy accessories. I love their fun, simple yet sleek designs — like this off the shoulder top that I am drooling over!

It looks very finished without all the fussiness of traditionally trendy outfits. If I were to create a label, it would look exactly like ILY Couture. That say a lot!

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Red-Carpet Trends Making It to Proms In 2016

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Image by Peaches Boutique

When I went to prom, it was a very different era. Back then there weren’t any Prom guidelines or blogs for us 17-year-old girls to reference! We hadn’t mastered our hair or makeup because Youtube wasn’t around. And our only real sense of fashion was what was being displayed in the windows of Short Hills Mall.  So we all kind of winged it. I wore a simple long black satin dress with a crystal drop necklace. It was pretty boring and pretty expensive.

Luckily times has changed and in the smallest efforts to get back that rather embarrassing moment, I thought I’d help out any future prom-goers with this simple trend outline for Prom 2016.

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New York, What’s the Rush?

When I first moved to new york I vividly remember sitting in a Starbucks on the corner of 49th and Madison avenue. It was pouring outside. I sat with my journal and coffee to write, but I was more fascinated by what was going on outside in front of me.

Men and women in business suits rushing in and out of buildings. Some had umbrellas, a few used the morning Times to shield their head from the torrential downpour. All were racing.

Normally I would regard the scene as a side effect of poor weather conditions. But this was a typical scene for New York. Business attired men and women shoving their way down the busy streets.

Where were they going? What was so important? I want to know the emergency!

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