I often don’t share hardships I deal with daily. Mainly to avoid giving it more attention or power than it needs. I live by the popular phrase “don’t give life to it”. But today I am shedding light on ways I have learned to roll with the punches when facing obstacles.
A few weeks ago, I attended the Power Your Happy panel hosted by Lisa Sugar from Popsugar. The evening corresponded with the launch of Lisa Sugar’s new book “Power Your Happy” and was filled with incredible speakers who have successfully turned what they loved into a career. The panelists were Deborah Lloyd who is Kate Spade’s Chief Creative Director, Chef Chloe Coscarelli of by CHLOE, and Jessie Randall the Creative Director and Cofounder of Loeffler Randall. See what each inspirational woman had to say below!
Lisa Sugar – founder of Popsugar
- “Do what you love”
- After a lot of crappy jobs in my 20s and not liking what I was doing everyday, I started “doing what I love”. My husbands motto of “just do it” played in my head. I began writing and making a routine. I learned from the audience what they liked and modified the content.
- I have a series of people I look to for inspiration, such as Beyonce. Though I don’t know her personally, I use her quotes to help direct my own thinking and choices.
- As for Balance? Screw balance. It is great in theory, but there is no such thing as balance when you are doing what you love and working for yourself.
Deborah Lloyd – Kate Spade’s Chief Creative Director
- I was head of Burberry of women’s wear and Banana Republic then Kate Spade. I kept moving into new opportunities and experiences.
- Be surrounded by a team of people who are better than you and better at the things you hate to do.
- A smile will get you a lot further than you think.
- The hardest experiences are when you learn the most and inquire more drive.
Chloe Coscarelli – by CHLOE
- Attitude is everything. Not success is everything; not money is everything. It is how you see things that make a huge difference.
- I moved home for three years and not sure what I was doing. That time was so necessary. I was able to listen to myself and figure out what I wanted to do.
- My advice is don’t seek validation from others. Who cares what other’s think when you tell them what you do for a living or if you are in the place of figuring your life out. Do what you really love.
- Think about what you would want as a consumer- that will cultivate more genuine products.
Jessie Randall – Creative Director and Cofounder of Loeffler Randall
- I struggled with the confidence of saying I am a designer at first. It was something I had to get over.
- Someone asked me at the beginning stages of starting my own business, “If you failed- would it still be a positive experience if you tried to be a designer?” – it helped me take the big risk.
- Let go of things- delegate, ask for help, you don’t have to do everything yourself.
- Find a partner that will help you. They should be the ying to your yang.
- When you can’t stop thinking about it, pursue it.
- Think about what makes you different from what is already out there.
Yesterday I recently visited the set of AOL Build, where the mega online hub hosts daily interviews with big named celebrities. I sat in on an interview with folk-country singer Jewel. If you grew up in the ’90s like I did, you’d remember jammin’ to her songs on the radio along with Savage Garden.
What I did not remember was how much Jewel had overcome at such a young age. She grew up in an abusive household, ran away at 15, became homeless at 16 and started stealing to make it through. She then started singing and songwriting which led her to become an American sensation.
But how did Jewel turn her life around?
I recently wrote an article for a friend about following your dreams. Pursuing your passions. The moment I sat down and began typing words of inspirations I had acquired through the years, I was flooded with feelings. For me writing is the process of taking a moment to pause, think, reflect and compose a letter to my closest friends (you). When constructing the piece on following dreams, I was reminded of what life is about. At least how I see it, and what I believe it is. I live by two pillars.
I don’t even know where to begin. I have edited and rewritten this article 43 times. I’ve walked away from this post to breathe, remember where I am today, and relax. This was the hardest article to write.
Lately, I have been bombarded by articles of teens and young women who have been raped. Most of us have been discussing the Stanford student who raped a young woman. We all know that this horrible abuse exists, but I don’t feel like we know how prevalent sexual abuse towards women is in our society. I also don’t think we understand the long-lasting effects of sexual abuse. We squirm at the thought and would rather ignore it. In reality, we need to stand up and say, “This has to end”.
The last article I read made me furious to the point I knew that I had to finally share my own story. To share what it is really like to survive sexual abuse in today’s society.