If you knew tights would fight cellulite while you wore them, would you buy them? Is that even a question!
These item M6 beauty tights do just that, fight cellulite while wearing them. I gave them a test recently while having a massive shoot day. I was on my feet the whole day when I wore the black opaque tights.
This is what I noticed:
Ask any designer their dreams and their answer will be to have their collection at Bergdorf Goodman. The department store has been a manhattan staple to the elite for decades. Celebrities, presidents, first ladies, pretty much any top style icon has shopped the massive fifth avenue establishment. So for a blogger to design a collection and have it debut at Bergdorfs is kind of a big deal! The times are changing, and influencers are leaving a gigantic mark.
This is going to be one of the more controversial articles I will write, but I find it important to start a conversation around it. Why? Because on a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide¹.
There is a difference between being loved and being abused. Yet the ways of being emotionally abused in a relationship can be incredibly discrete.
I have watched as many loved ones excuse behaviors on the basis of “oh he really loves me”. I have even done that! I have accepted really crappy behavior from previous partners because “he loves me”. Or I longed to feel loved, even if it is just crumbs. But this is not okay! First off, no one deserves to be hurt. Secondly, whether we realize it or not, there is a long lasting effect from being in these abusive relationships. It crushes our self-worth in the long run. Each time we accept unacceptable behavior, we are saying, “oh I deserve that treatment, I am not worth being respected.”
What Emotional Abuse Looks Like
Last night I went to the Plan de Ville showroom in Manhattan. It is a very cute, all white room with racks of beautifully curated pieces. I felt as if I had walked into my dream closet. Catherine Smith, the founder and fashion director of Plan de Ville, was one of the first people to greet me at the door. It was the most genuine hellos I’ve had in a while. In such a busy fast past industry, I felt I was really appreciated being and acknowledge.
Catherine brought me through the showroom and answered several of my awe-inspired questions. Like what is the number one piece every woman should own. Her answer- a bodysuit! I couldn’t agree more. She then pulled this lace, bell sleeved bodysuit that was to die for.
Happy Monday everyone. Last week I talked about change and the ways that helped me move through transitions or tough times. I was amazed how many people really responded to that topic and thought that this week I would share about perspective. It is amazing how the world changes once we change how we see it.
Here is how I see life. An excerpt from my personal journal:
First, I want to thank all the lovely comments and support while I have been away! I apologize it has been pretty quiet on the blog front last week. While some may know, I have been going through a lot of changes and it finally all hit last week. Since I begrudgingly admit I am human and the very normal feelings of fear, sadness, anxiety, and anger began to creep in- I decided to step away and take care of myself while finding my footing again.
While I just moved (which is a big milestone in itself) I also have been going through some massive personal changes. I won’t dive into it because I don’t want to hurt anyone else involved, but it really reminded me of what I would do when I faced these momentous points in life.
While today isn’t a fashion post, hang in there, I will have those soon enough. Instead, I want to share certain really HEALTHY steps I choose to combat the human feelings of fear, anxiety or feeling overwhelmed. While feeling feelings are crucial, constantly living in fear or sadness is not. This is what I found works for me.
A few weeks ago, I attended the Power Your Happy panel hosted by Lisa Sugar from Popsugar. The evening corresponded with the launch of Lisa Sugar’s new book “Power Your Happy” and was filled with incredible speakers who have successfully turned what they loved into a career. The panelists were Deborah Lloyd who is Kate Spade’s Chief Creative Director, Chef Chloe Coscarelli of by CHLOE, and Jessie Randall the Creative Director and Cofounder of Loeffler Randall. See what each inspirational woman had to say below!
Lisa Sugar – founder of Popsugar
- “Do what you love”
- After a lot of crappy jobs in my 20s and not liking what I was doing everyday, I started “doing what I love”. My husbands motto of “just do it” played in my head. I began writing and making a routine. I learned from the audience what they liked and modified the content.
- I have a series of people I look to for inspiration, such as Beyonce. Though I don’t know her personally, I use her quotes to help direct my own thinking and choices.
- As for Balance? Screw balance. It is great in theory, but there is no such thing as balance when you are doing what you love and working for yourself.
Deborah Lloyd – Kate Spade’s Chief Creative Director
- I was head of Burberry of women’s wear and Banana Republic then Kate Spade. I kept moving into new opportunities and experiences.
- Be surrounded by a team of people who are better than you and better at the things you hate to do.
- A smile will get you a lot further than you think.
- The hardest experiences are when you learn the most and inquire more drive.
Chloe Coscarelli – by CHLOE
- Attitude is everything. Not success is everything; not money is everything. It is how you see things that make a huge difference.
- I moved home for three years and not sure what I was doing. That time was so necessary. I was able to listen to myself and figure out what I wanted to do.
- My advice is don’t seek validation from others. Who cares what other’s think when you tell them what you do for a living or if you are in the place of figuring your life out. Do what you really love.
- Think about what you would want as a consumer- that will cultivate more genuine products.
Jessie Randall – Creative Director and Cofounder of Loeffler Randall
- I struggled with the confidence of saying I am a designer at first. It was something I had to get over.
- Someone asked me at the beginning stages of starting my own business, “If you failed- would it still be a positive experience if you tried to be a designer?” – it helped me take the big risk.
- Let go of things- delegate, ask for help, you don’t have to do everything yourself.
- Find a partner that will help you. They should be the ying to your yang.
- When you can’t stop thinking about it, pursue it.
- Think about what makes you different from what is already out there.